Going from Cope to Hope on Valentine’s Day

Top Seven Steps to Surviving the Holiday of Love from Second Saturday Divorce Workshops

It's the holiday of flowers, chocolates and romance – for everyone but you.  If divorce is on your Valentine's Day horizon, you are not alone: according to a recent study, divorce filing rates skyrocket on February 14th.(1)  From Second Saturday Divorce Workshops, here are seven steps to surviving the big day:

1.     Create a support system:  Be sure you have a shoulder to lean (and cry) on.  Think about who will be the most supportive and least judgmental about your situation, and give them a call.  Look for a Second Saturday Divorce Workshop in your area, and join a community of individuals navigating similar difficulties.

2.    Seek help: Divorce is riddled with a myriad of emotions –including anger, pain, relief, guilt and fear, and having professionals in your orbit can be critical to your emotional and spiritual well-being. Second Saturday Divorce Workshops include attorneys, therapists and financial advisors to provide the guidance your need.

3.     Make a date: If you know someone who is already divorced, see if you can make plans for Valentine's Day – or send each other flowers.

4.     Find healthy ways to cope: Whether this is taking a walk, exercising, practicing yoga, meditating, doing something creative or helping another person, there are a myriad of tried and true ways to reduce stress and anxiety.

5.     Discover the blessings: While divorce can be devastating, it also shines a light on new and existing reasons to be grateful.   Get cozy with a journal and write down anything and everything good that comes to mind – people who have been supportive, your children being in a calmer environment, having wonderful pets, even eating and sleeping when you want counts as a blessing – the good stuff will add up quickly.

6.     Breathe in the possibilities:  This day, this moment, this divorce…will pass – and you will have the chance to re-create your life, exactly the way you want.  Close your eyes and envision anything that has brought you happiness or fulfillment – without your spouse.  What are your favorite pastimes?  What have you always wanted to do, but never took that first step? How would you most like to live the rest of your life?

7.     Love yourself: One of the most challenging, lifelong practices is that of self-love, and divorce can make this even more difficult.  This month, be your own Valentine.  Take a bubble bath, light a candle, sit back, and breathe.  Never give up hope: Indulge in healthy ways that fill your heart and soul – including dark chocolate truffles.

To find a Second Saturday Divorce Workshop in your area, click here.

About Second Saturday and WIFE.org:

Second Saturday: What Everyone Needs to Know About Divorce is a nationally renowned workshop that has been replicated in over 100 locations across the country. In San Diego alone, over 10,000 people have gone through the program, and it has raised more than $300,000 for various charities.

Second Saturday is offered through WIFE.org, the nation's longest-running non-profit devoted to female financial literacy.  It was founded in 1988 by Candace Bahr and Ginita Wall, who are as dedicated to their cause today as they were when they first began.  In 2013, they were honored as KPBS Heroes as part of National Women's History Month for their WIFE.org and Second Saturday efforts.

With a career spanning over three decades, Bahr is a nationally known advocate for women's financial independence, and was named by Investment News as "Twenty Women to Watch." Wallis a nationally recognized expert and columnist on the subject of women and money.  Her credentials include CPA, CFP®, and CDFA®. She has authored eight books on personal finance and was named one of the 250 top financial advisors in the country by Worth Magazine eight years in a row.

Bahr and Wall have been speaking nationally on behalf of their non-profit since it was founded, offering workshops and making media appearances on shows such as NBC Nightly News, MSNBC, CBS This Morning, CNNfn, PBS and National Public Radio and they travel the country speaking to women's conferences organized by State Treasurer offices. For more information, visit www.WIFE.org and www.SecondSaturday.com.

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